ADHD Intuition - Resonating Frequencies

Not quite sure how to start this.  I want to talk about resonation of frequencies, but in terms of literally feeling on the same wavelength as someone else.  Now, if you have ADHD, then using your intuition and being able to read the room will most likely be one of your strengths.  It is for me.  But I recently had a bit of a crisis, where I found a male person that resonated so strongly on the same frequency, I was willing to wreck my marriage in pursuit of more of that feeling!

I am a Christian, so you may well judge me and ask where my faith principles disappeared to.  Well! When it comes to a dopamine deficit, and living my whole life under some unknown mask.  After feeling the liberation of removing that mask and finally getting to the point of not only a deeper understanding of my limitations, but also, accepting them! I think I just get far too excited when I find my ADHD people that I really resonate with.

The fact that I happened to find a male on the same wavelength, I misinterpreted it for some kind of chemistry between us.  It didn't help that this person was flirting back.  Which further fuelled the misinterpretation! I was later told it was just banter.  Don't get me started on that one.  Have always hated sarcasm, banter and all that stuff.  I think because I've never been able to read it well.  It's the one thing that always scuppers me when it comes to my social skills! I take forever to get the punchline of jokes, believe people when they are making an obvious sarcastic comment, to the point I'll click in about ten minutes later and say 'Oh! You were joking! Sorry, thought you meant it!' Cue major face palm!! So it's frustrating for me to get mixed signals, especially passing it off as banter.  It made me feel so stupid for reading it so wrong!

​As a late identified adult of ADHD, especially as a woman and wrongly mis-diagnosed with first Schizophrenia, then Bi-polar disorder.  Then, getting towards the right track from the Psychiatry team of, not Bi-polar but a 'mood disorder. Not otherwise specified'.  To then thinking I was Autistic. To finally landing on ADHD.  It's been an absolute whirlwind these last few years.  So I see this slip up in my supposedly strong morals as just another mistake in finding my feet with all this.

My conclusion and my solution is that, if I get such a buzz from connecting with someone on my supposed frequency (I'll get to the faith vs science bit in a minute.  As I want to go deeper into that too!) then I just need to find, foster and nurture female friendships where that resonation is strong! I met a mutual friend the other night.  Another fellow female ADHDer.  We were on a night out, alcohol was involved.  But there was a moment where we were all sat together near the end of the night, bouncing off each other's vibes and just cackling away with it all! It was just so much fun! So, yes please, more of that, 'cause it give me life! As the saying goes!

A very dear friend had said this to me a while ago.  I was talking about the fact that I must stop diagnosing people that I can clearly spot the ADHD traits in! I keep calling them out as I just get so excited to find someone on my wavelength! And this dear friend of mine said something along the lines of, after going through life knocking against people, when you finally mesh with someone, it makes a huge difference.  That there is bound to be a lot of excitement involved! And she's always right.  I've gone through my life trying to find the place I fit in.  It's certainly why I've always loved my Church family, whatever Church community I've been a part of.  Because, if they're doing it right, Christians shouldn't judge.  I've always felt, if I have Jesus in common with someone, they'll automatically accept me, no matter how much they might not even like me! So all the sub conscious anxiety about not fitting in, fades away.  And I relax and just enjoy the fellowship.

And talking of my faith.  A few words on believing in frequencies.  I run a Neurodivergent group in my local town of Southend-on-Sea, 'Southend Neurodivergents'.  Where I organise two in person meet ups a month for us ND folk.  Born out of the need to 'find my people'.  For me, it's my therapy.  I love helping and supporting others too, a big dopamine hit.  So it works both ways! Anyway, I met a lady through my group who used to be a nurse.  And she told me some science behind the idea of being able to 'read people's energy'.  I've always thought of this as a bit 'woo'.  A bit too new age for my Christian faith and have left well alone.

However, she was talking about ECGs and how this reads the signals of our hearts. I mean we all know what an ECG is! But she spoke about a colleague, a Doctor, who had invented some kind of ECG t-shirt.  And that it could pick up the bodies electrical signals from a good few inches away from the body.  So when spiritual people talk about auras, I guess there is some kind of science around it! Again, I don't like to go too deep into the New Age so will leave it at the science bit for me! And that is how I reconcile it with my faith.  I'm not about to start meditating to raise or lower my vibration.  I'm not about to start trying to open my third eye and feel all the energies in the atmosphere.  My ADHD intuition and sensitivity means I tend to pick up on vibes in the atmosphere.  And until I met my dear friend I mentioned previously, I always thought I sounded bat poo crazy when I spoke about that stuff! 'Cause it really does sound very 'woo' and new age or just a bit too weird for some people to comprehend.  However, I also fully believe in Holy Spirit and I will always be led by Him.  Not some mystical perceived 'energies'.  In conclusion, I do feel I can follow the science  and not get too carried away on the mysticism by keeping grounded in my faith in God and Jesus.

I will continue my hunt to find my people and enjoy the resonation, validation and acceptance in my neurodivergence.  I have struggled and felt ashamed at my limitations for far too long.  Time to enjoy and celebrate the good stuff! If you're local to Southend and want in on this, please do get in touch for our meet ups! And you can join the Facebook group here to find out more! As a late identifying adult, I'll be on a mission to help and support others in this revealing journey of unpicking all the past trauma from living under a mask for so long!

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• Header pic: Photo by Vinícius Vieira ft: https://www.pexels.com/photo/purple-and-pink-light-digital-wallpaper-4424355/
• ​ECG printout: Photo by Pixabay: https://www.pexels.com/photo/selective-focus-photography-of-white-and-black-vital-sign-printing-paper-415779/